You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
– Jim Rohn
Sure there are anomalies, but here at The Prepreneur we don’t leave it up to luck or coincidence.
My Own Family
I remember vividly in 2014, I was in the market to buy a home. After a year of constant searching, I finally found the ideal house that met my major criterias. On top of that it was highly undervalued and wasn’t yet listed on the major sites like Zillow or Trulia . I decided to take my mom to before deciding to put the home under contract.
Funny thing was I was hoping for her support and thumbs up, but what I got was just critique and everything negative about the home even though the problems were minor and could be fixed.
Long story short that delayed my decision to put an offer on the home and a few days later the house was under contract (off the market for purchase).
In that moment, I learned how powerful it was on who I let influence my decisions and who I surrounded myself around when taking advice.
The people you surround yourself with will influence you by their thoughts and advice, what they find and don’t find acceptable, and how they live their lives.
As Darren Hardy writes in The Compound Effect :
“According to research by social psychologist Dr. David McClelland of Harvard, [the people you habitually associate with] determine as much as 95 percent of your success or failure in life.”
So powerful. This really gives us insight into how much of an impact the people you are around have on you.
The dream in your heart may be bigger than the environment in which you find yourself. Sometimes you have to get out of that environment to see that dream fulfilled.
So how do you know if they are loser friends?
I’m not here to determine which friend you should drop but here are some helpful tips.
Disclaimer: This is NOT definitive.
- Not supportive
- Not trusting
You should actively be constructing your social environment. Don’t leave this up to chance or proximity. Examine your current circle and see where each member fits.
Who are the best people to surround yourself with?
This also depends on what your own values and circumstances. I found a few good rules that are helpful.
Surround yourself with people you admire. Spend time with more people who you want to become. People that challenge you. Who aren’t scared to tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear.
This increases the chances that you’ll become better to fit in with the beliefs of the group. You need to be constantly examining your group and its influence on your life.
Gary Vaynerchuk even gave us advice on how you could audit your circle.
Go home, cut your loserest loser friend. And make 1 new winner friend.
– Gary Vee
This matters. Make sure you take this to the bank.
Seriously, go audit your circle.